You probably know someone, after reading the Narcissist Check List, that will meet some, most, or all of the Criteria on this list.
The Muto Family has a number of members that this could be their manifesto.
Narcissist Check List:
- Two faced, putting friends and family down behind their backs.
- Tendency to blame their lack of success and failures on others.
- Acts different in public than in private.
- Irresponsible and unreliable
- Arrogant, acts superior to people close to them.
- Lives in a fantasy world which may include porn, flirting, affairs and dreams of unlimited success and fame.
- Addicted to his fantasy oriented behavior.
- Will lie and distort facts and change events to suit their own agenda.
- Be irresponsible with money.
- Emotionally distant and unavailable unless they want something.
- Exhibits inappropriate attitudes and prejudices about bodily functions and sexual behavior.
- Lack sympathy for others, especially those they exploit
- Be very controlling and unable to relax
- Regularly provoke people and then blame them for the fight
- Have trouble admitting their mistakes.
See more Narcissist Blog Posts at: “The Narcissist Defined.”
I only came across information about scapegoating a few weeks ago by accident when searching how to deal with narcissists after yet another mean thing my family did to me. It has changed my life! I am so very happy to find out about this. I have been saying all the points all my life about being the family scapegoat but not realizing it was all connected or calling it that. I have been frustrated and confused about how I was treated, it made no sense. Was it really my fault? Was it my imagination? Was I making a big deal out of nothing? To find out it is real, it is bad, it is abuse, it devastates a person and their life, it NEVER stops. It extends to your own children and nieces and nephews, cousins, and personal relationships and work. It is insidious. I had just come to the conclusion I had to sever the last family tie I was holding on to. Like so many others, I was losing nothing, nothing good ever came out of being in contact with any family member. I suffered unspeakably horrible emotional abuse by family from birth on. I couldn’t understand why I need counseling into my 60’s for goodness sake. Now it all makes sense! I am so typical, not fully realizing until in my mid-60’s! Oh if I could only have known years sooner. Thank you so much for bringing light to this terrible problem!