It’s well known that Steve THE CHEATER Muto BULLY has no self-control and never has, but you should. As this post suggests, all you so-called FRIENDS of Steve’s on social media will be called out and exposed on this website as long as you AT-A-BOY the BULLY and YOU become complicit in the gas-lighting of his family. Why don’t you all do something for the community instead and get this boy some help. He needs to GROW UP and begin to do the right thing by his family. In the meantime, this will continue. So here’s to you DAVID STEPHENS, … Continue reading →
Grandparents thought they were being given a peaceful Hawaiian 50th Wedding Anniversary Vacation.
UPDATE 2018: Now titled: 50th Wedding Anniversary EXTRAVAGANZA – I’M SORRY I CHEATED Hawaiian Vacation
Little did they know, Steve and Kelly had something more adventurous in mind. A Honeymoon / Bucket List Tour 2015 courtesy of God Speed.
Skydiving? Check Shark diving? Check Bucket List Tour? Check Leave Grandparents at house? Check Consolation attendance at Grandparent’s Wish List events? Not so much. Keep up Bully Campaign, from Hawaii, on the relatives back on the mainland with dozens and dozens of Indirect Cyber-Bully … Continue reading →
The Hawaii (Shove-your-nose-in-it-with-500-selfies) “Bucket List” of extreme sports was fulfilled by Steve Muto, Kelly Muto and her daughters this week in Hawaii.
Too bad for ‘ole Grandma and Grandpa, the Bucket List looks a little extreme for the 70+ crowd. They must have been stranded at the house possibly cooking up some Blueberry Buckle.
What, were they watching from the house that’s not on a beach? It’s called Waterfront, not Beachfront for those low information people. To be a beachfront it would have to have SAND. This must be a difficult concept for some … Continue reading →
The ability to take criticism well depends mostly on how secure we feel about ourselves. Yet it could hardly be said that any of us actually enjoys being criticized. For it’s a challenge to avoid feeling defensive when we experience ourselves as attacked. At such times, it’s more “natural”–or rather, more aligned with our conditioning–to go into self-protective mode. And typically, the way we choose to protect ourselves is through denying the … Continue reading →
At least, the reasons they give for staying married…
Steve and Kelly Muto – Why Bully’s in a Bad Marriage Stay Married
Not infrequently, patients come to my office telling me in detail everything wrong with their marriages. These complaints are not unusual, but they are usually heart-felt. They include a whole range of misbehavior’s on the part of their spouses. Sometimes there is only one serious transgression, such as a prolonged infidelity or drug use, including Continue reading →
It is the speed of communication on the Internet—not just the anonymity—that makes it such a dangerous place. Rumors that would have taken weeks to reach the public consciousness in the pre-Internet age can rouse the Twitchfork-wielding rabble in an instant.
There’s a quote attributed to psychology pioneer William James that voices the principle at work here: “there’s nothing so absurd that if you repeat it often enough, people will believe it.”
That kind of mass-repetition can now happen on social media in a matter of minutes.
Well folks, this is the house that was found, as a diamond in the rough by the family, not Steve. Situated on the beautiful south side of Kailua Beach, HI. Months of filtering and searching, phone calls, late nights and long days for just the right place with just the right room count, bathroom count, separate accommodations for Steve and Kelly (if they chose) in their own house next to the main house. It was perfect for the group that was intending on going. Under construction, but if you could see the vision of what and where the house was … Continue reading →
The classic grandiose narcissists performs at center stage in the spotlight. (This post refers to male and female narcissists.) He/she demands your total unblinking attention. I recall a number of these individuals whom I have known personally and professionally. They grab the psychological space in a room. They regal us with stories of their perfect lives.
How often have you been psychologically accosted by a narcissistic personality? They won’t leave you alone. They are filled with stories of their latest triumphs. They talk about their superior family members who are … Continue reading →
You probably know someone, after reading the Narcissist Check List, that will meet some, most, or all of the Criteria on this list. The Muto Family has a number of members that this could be their manifesto.
Narcissist Check List:
Two faced, putting friends and family down behind their backs.
Tendency to blame their lack of success and failures on others.
Sometimes bullying, especially in families, is more covert.
If you call out an adult bully, they reply with incredulity, “I was just asking questions! I can’t believe you took it that way,” putting the blame back on you. And then you start to wonder if you’re the crazy one. Yet even if you turn yourself inside out to try to please the bully, you never will, because bullies thrive on the feeling of instilling fear. Meet one demand and they’ll come up with another.
You probably have thought of at least one person when you saw the name of this list; it’s that person, who no matter how much you love him or her or how great of a friend he or she can be in real life, he or she is without a doubt, the most annoying person on your Facebook news feed. Check out the list of 15 ways to tell if someone is insufferably bad at Facebook.
Oh, and you may want to make sure that somehow, that annoying friend of yours takes a look at this, too. Think of it … Continue reading →
13th Attack-Defence Strategy: Claim the Part of the Victim (Steve Muto is straddling many stages of the Attack-Defense-Strategy, but his BigKahunaBully website is proof of the following…)
Following closely after ‘feigned humility’, the Attack-Defence is complete. The Family Serial Bully will have successfully redefined themselves as the victim who requires more protection, attention, understanding and forgiveness than their Target(s). The same rights that go with being the ‘favored one’. If even one Ally is willing to allow the Family Serial Bully this … Continue reading →
Steve’s Over-the-Top Cursed Hawaiian Vacation “Countdown” has to go down as one of the most ridiculous displays of narcissism ever witnessed.
The time and energy it took to try prove something to everyone, what we don’t know, but it is quite a body of work when you assemble it all into a single list. This took hours mind you. By the way, he did all of with the knowledge of having destroyed the relationships and family vacation that had been worked on so hard by other members of his family.
Recently, I found myself sitting with a patient Elsa, who was crying inconsolably in my office. It turns out that her sister had stolen her inheritance out from under her. It wasn’t the loss of the money that was making her feel so devastated, though; it was the shocking betrayal by her only sibling.
Elsa’s sister Joyce had gotten their dying mother to change her will at the last minute, leaving everything to her. Their mother had been ill for a long time and Joyce had found a way to convince … Continue reading →